Relationships and Southern California
KUHL Weekly Musing
Itβs 4 am along the coastline on Malibu. One of the most beautiful and abundantly wealthy stretches of coastline in North America. It buzzes with energy from both the ocean and its inhabitants. I sit here writing and wondering what am I doing here. Why I am here on this journey with these 4 incredible people I call family. Yes, we do get to do and see some amazing things, but there has to be more than that. More than just a fantastic adventure
I am slowly discovering what it is about…relationship. How we choose to do life and who we choose to do it with. I reflect on the relationships in my life (often sad attempts) and wonder again if I am getting it right. It all feels so loud and messy. Like a baby trying to take its first steps.
Throughout this journey, I never really thought that there would be learning in regards to relationships for me. I thought βThis will be great! We will provide a small comfortable space, where all we need is one another and it will teach them how to really do intimate, vulnerable relationships.β It was about them…not me. I didnβt need to learn how to do that kind of relationship…I was good!
Funny thing happens though…when we are going about our agenda…
We met a family along the way that we ended up in a fast, close friendship with…and then I was the one learning. Learning how to flex, to give and understand, disagree, learn and teach…letting go of some of those walls of self preservation I had so carefully built for myself. I am quickly learning that I am as much a student of this journey as our kids are.
Southern California
Rolling through LA with a truck and trailer totaling just under 60″ is not for the faint of heart. The visual beauty accompanied by the smell of dirt and smog is confusing to the senses. Freeways crisscross, creating a strong sense of confusion. Irregular concrete that tested the structure of our trailer like none other. We had just spent 8 hours on a warm Sunday afternoon coming in from Vegas (with an 8 year old with a migraine) for what would normally be a 3 hour drive. BAD idea. We were all spent by the time we hit the freeways of LA (by the way there is nothing free about the ways in LA). Navigating with Mike is interesting. Once we learned one another’s rhythm and expectation, things got easier. He is a need to know ahead of time kinda driver…I am not! Only give me enough info to get me through the next couple minutes. I don’t process a ton of info at one time. He wants to know miles ahead. Which I now understand after watching him cut 5 lanes of traffic with a 35′ trailer on the I5 to make our exit …oops.
We booked a “cheap” campground close to Disney to surprise the kids with a gift from Mike’s mom. She flew in to join us for a week and surprised the kids with a couple days at Disney. So much fun driving into the Disney area and seeing their faces. They believed all along that Disney was not an option. Side note, I won the mother-in-law jackpot!!!
The “Ponderosa” campground lived up to cheap. A closed pool, no locks on the bathroom doors, backing onto a trailer park (and not the good kind) and directly below a freeway. Jo was skateboarding at the Ponderosa and the manager came over and recommended that he not, for fear of getting mowed down by one of the angry residents. Jo was bummed. She then informed us the there was an indoor skate park 5 minutes away. We took her advice and hopped in the truck. Little did we know it was THEE Skate Park. Vans Indoor Park just so happened to be hosting a competition the upcoming weekend. To our surprise and amazement all the masters were there practicing. The boys (Mike included) got to meet and skate with old time skaters that Mike grew up following. Christian Hosio, Eddie Algeria, Steve Caballero, Mike McGill. Mike and Christian talked homeschooling and travel. It was the equivalent of seeing stars in Hollywood. If Jo hadn’t decided to pull his board out that morning, they would have never experienced this. This whole trip has been about gifts…I like to call them special kisses from the universe.
Our time in the LA area with fast and busy. After Disney, we moved to an RV resort along the magical coastline of Malibu. This was our launching point for the remainder of our time in the area.
The Santa Monica Pier and Venice Beach is a feast for the senses. Santa Monica pier was extremely busy on a Sunday afternoon and the kids managed to ride the rollercoaster once and have ice cream. It is a bit of a tourist trap but still so cool to experience these places that the kids have only heard about. My advice, go during the week.
Venice was fun to visit…once, but not a place we are planning to go back to anytime soon. Watching old school roller skaters almost dance battle was a highlight, along with the skate park. The Venice canals are a couple blocks off the beach and are definitely worth a wander. At the end of the day we walked to the 3rd st promenade to enjoy local street performers and ended up on the patio of a family run Greek restaurant watching flamenco type dance lessons in the street. This is an event that runs every Sunday night and was so much fun to watch. Maybe next time we will dance!
Hollywood was a dream destination of Sarah’s. The buzz there is a touch alarming, particularly in the evening. We ate great Mexican food during happy hour, walked some of the stars and learned the history of the Chinese Theatre. Hollywood was short lived and we ended it with driving back to Malibu via Rodeo Drive in our big dirty stinky diesel half ton…a bit of a sight I am assuming π
We actually call Sam “Little Houdini” because the kid has a habit of just disappearing on us!
Southern California is known for its amazing skateparks. Attempting to hit as many as possible including The Vans Off The Wall in Huntington, Fillmore Skatepark in Fillmore, The Cove in Santa Monica and Vans Combi Bowl in Orange County
The most memorable time spent in Southern California was definitely the beaches. The ocean has such an impact on our family and has always felt like a place of refuge. Watching surfers at Huntington and walking the pier, to just playing on Zuma beach. We loved spending this time with Mike’s mom and a week felt a bit too short. Mike and I were able to go on a date and hit up a weird sushi/Mexican patio for some great food. The Malibu Sunday Farmers Market had delicious fresh strawberries and blueberries and numerous food trucks that all smelled and looked delicious. This last bit was way more our style than the city touring. We said good bye to Mikes mom at LAX (that’s an experience!!!) and are making our way up the coast a bit to the Carpentaria area.
Alex
Your photos are amazing!!, I have been to LA but it was only for 3 days. After seeing these photos I would lovvvvve to go back! Especially to see the iconic wharf!!
admin
Thanks so much Alex for the kind words! We were in the area for 10 days and probably could have burned up another 10 days at the beaches. Such a great place.
Tia Brown
I love your style of photography. You’re also in my favorite area to vacation. I grew up going to HB every summer multiple times, I love the whole feel of that city!
admin
Thanks Tia! Huntington Beach was one of our favorites…so chill.
Whitney
Looks like a fun trip! I can’t imagine driving a trailer through LA.
admin
It was an interesting experience…glad it was my husband and not me!
Anna
This is a great photo journal! Thank you so much for sharing, these photos are so lovely they make me want to go and pack up the car right now for a road trip!
admin
Thank you so much for taking the time to have a look. I get so excited when I go back through our photo….motivates me to keep traveling (not that we need much motivation lol).
Devin
I grew up in Southern California, and now I’m homesick! I got engaged at Huntington Beach 6 years ago next month and I have to say, you really captured the beauty of that beach!
admin
Thank you so much Devin, that means a lot. We really loved it there and wished that we had blocked of more time in that area.
Kallsy
Oddly enough, I just took a trip to SoCal (Laguna Beach area) and met my parents and youngest sister there. I haven’t really traveled with them in awhile and was interested to see the challenges that presented but also was thankful for our time together. Your photos are simply beautiful. I especially loved the memories you made at Disney!
admin
Yes, travelling with family can def prove to be challenging although so many great memories created. Thankful that my MIL is easy peasey to travel with!
TravelingDreads
Sounds like an amazing time! I look forward to the chance to visit here sometime and see these places! Thanks for sharing.
admin
it was so beautiful…loved the beaches. I am not a huge Disney fan, but our kids loved it!
Ana Rose | Roads and Pages
Traveling with a family is a golden opportunity. This is a perfect article for me. Kids grow easily. One day, they will grow up, fall in love, marry and build a family of their own. So, it is advisable to have a trip with the kids while they are still young.
admin
So true! Traveling with our kids is truly the best thing we have ever done!
Anna
I have never been to LA nor I do have a family of my own. But reading your post gives me good vibes of how family travel together and why.Malibu seems like a great place to raise your kids, do you agree?
Anna
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admin
We really enjoyed the Malibu area.
Adrenaline Romance
It looks like you definitely had a lot of fun with your family!
Sweetie and I always travel and adventure together, and presently, we are letting our daughter Alexa join us on adventures that we deem safe for her. Adventuring and traveling together truly tightens familial bonds while having a lot of fun and learning new things.
admin
I think traveling is one of the best things a family can do together π
Michelle d
Splash mountain is one of my favorite rides! It’s so much fun and I love the little splashes of water.
admin
Ye, we loved splash mountain as well.
Christina
Your trip with your family sounds lovely! Surprises are always the best and even better when it is to surprise someone (in this case your kids) with something they think they are never getting. The skate park encounters sound awesome! What an amazing experience that the boys will never forget. It sounds you are giving your kids experiences to remember for a lifetime.
admin
I think those are the best kind of surprises π
Wanderlust Vegans
That looks like the dream trip to southern California. The kids must have had so much fun going to Disneyland and all the great skate parks. Plus camping is a lot of fun. I can’t believe you got to see all those old skaters. That’s amazing.
admin
It was a pretty great time!
Megan
You make California sound so beautiful! Would love to visit one day π
admin
It is a really beautiful place π
Katie
It looks like you guys had an incredible trip- your photos are beautiful! And how cool that the kids got to meet some of those skaters- I am not into skating, but I can imagine it was like meeting an idol. Such a nice experience!
admin
It was such a cool experience for them.